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Victimizing vs. Empowered Money Mediated Sex— Paynes grey


This article on sexual connection started off as a simple blog entry, but as I started working on it, it kept on expanding in scope and in depth as I researched and thought about it. Now it has become a full spectrum: FIFTY SHADES OF CONNECTION. Every month, on the third Thursday of the month, a new shade will be posted until the whole spectrum has been revealed. Enjoy!

2. Victimizing vs. Empowered Money Mediated Sex— Paynes grey
Another shade of grey is looking at various forms of sexual activities mediated by money. As I interviewed various people working in or closely to the sex industry, an important distinction became clear to me. On one hand, sex work could be experienced as a victimizing mechanism, and on the other hand, when entered from a place of  empowerment, it could be experienced as a place of healing, sexual expression and celebration. Some use sex work as a powerful tool to overcome sexual taboos, recover freedom of sexual expression and independence.

Read on…


Does speaking up feel like jumping off a cliff?

Does speaking up feel like jumping off a cliff?

Now you’ve discovered that voicing your deep concerns or truths puts you on a limb. You have fears that speaking your truth will have terrible consequences on your life. You cringe at the idea of loosing your loved one, your stability and comfort, your boss’ respect, maybe even your job! This stops you from speaking. But then you realize that your life keeps on shrinking on you. Your self-esteem starts quivering. It feels suffocating!

This has to stop. But for some reason, it is so bloody difficult. Speaking up feels like jumping from the edge of a steep cliff. Hidden away in your cellular memory speaking up has not been safe for you. The perfect constellation of people have now aligned for you to really acknowledge this. It is time to heal those long forgotten wounds, hidden away in the layers of your soul.

Often times, we shut out traumatic events in our lives as a survival mechanism. The interesting thing is that the trauma does not have to be a huge one. It could simply be someone just shutting you up for some reason. But, your energy fields then configure to this reality. When I speak up, I get shut down — or various permutations of this message. Suddenly, this becomes your reality.

A very effective way of releasing the “fear” energies around speaking up can be done within the Akashic Records. The AR can help quicken the healing process by directly uncovering the layers all the way to the source of the issue. All I wasn’t able to heal in therapy, I have been able to uncover and heal in the Akashic Records. If you would like to try this out, I would love to set up a consultation with you and help you reclaim your fullest self. Contact me for any questions on how to proceed!



A perfectly chosen constellation of people

A perfectly chosen constellation of people—

Some people may seem totally at ease with expressing their views and preferences in certain types of relationships. They may even appear quite bold. But with a certain constellation of people, seemingly perfectly chosen — perhaps is it a partner, a co-worker or certain members of your family— the throat suddenly seems to constrict, the voice seems to shrink from its position of power. For such strong and powerful people, doesn’t this appear odd? Well, this is a wonderful clue to the great mystery that is you! These perfectly chosen people are mirroring back one of our deep unconscious wounds. The one’s beyond the sweeping of our personal sonar, hidden away in the deep layers of our soul. In such a scenario, we can better appreciate the existence and depth of the wound. Now, at least, we know it is there and needs tending to! (More soon — A series on VOICE.)

The surprising ramifications of VOICE!

The surprising ramifications of VOICE. It’s not always easy to see the places in our lives where we are not using our voice. The reason is twofold, I believe. First, you need awareness that you actually are denying yourself voice. Then, you have to have the courage to use it, which is of course complicated at times. So, to tackle the first difficulty, noticing voice-deficit, let’s look at three places where voice is important: work, relationships and sex.

-At work: If you are exhausted and people keep piling on work and expectations, do you speak up or does it feel like risky business?

-In an intimate relationship: Do you always adapt to your partner’s complicated schedule or needs without considering yours? Does talking about this make you feel you could loose them?

-In sex: If your partner does something to you that hurts or makes you uncomfortable, do you speak up? Or are you worried that you could ruin the mood?

These are just little teasers to get us thinking about places where voice-deficit might be lurking! More to come…